The Big Squeeze

There is nothing more comforting and heart warming in life than a hug. When we both give and receive this natural human embrace the feeling both participants receive can be extremely exhilarating and also reassuring. But if we are held too tightly or pressed too firmly, a hug can very easily become a ‘squeeze’ which is not so comforting.

Being squeezed occasionally can be more than a little uncomfortable, and if we are being squeezed constantly then this is actually a form of entrapment. Being squeezed in its worst form equates to suffocation, and no one wants to be held onto so tightly that they cannot breathe. We regularly squeeze so many things in our life both consciously and unconsciously. We squeeze our finances, we squeeze both of our personal and professional relationships, and we even squeeze our own minds.

Squeezing anything means we are holding onto something far too tightly by applying pressure, in an attempt to prevent it escaping our grip either literally or metaphorically. Applying pressure is a method of intentional enforcement in an attempt to obtain power and control. And although a degree of pressure in measured amounts in our life can ultimately encourage inspired action and forward movement, any unwanted excessive pressure imposed upon us against our will by anyone or anything outside of ourselves, is not only non-progressive, but this is a form of abuse.

Any tendency to hold on too tightly to anything is ultimately a sign of insecurity and ultimately fear. We are fuelled by the fear that loosening our grip on whatever we are clinging tightly onto will evade us, and we will not be able to replace whatever we have lost. We fear our finances slipping through our fingers so we hold on tighter, we fear people we care about leaving us so we cling onto them for dear life. We restrict the movement of whatever we believe we cannot live without, without realising we are actively destroying it by squeezing the life out of it.

Choosing to squeeze anything is also a sign of selfishness, a lack of appreciation, and disrespect. We are being selfish by ignoring the needs of another over our own, we are being unappreciative by wanting more than we have already received, and we are not respecting the boundaries and rights of others. And by behaving in this manner we are actually creating an even speedier ending and loss.

We must avoid, reject, and repel any attempt made on our life to be squeezed, crushed, or restricted in any manner, by anyone or anything outside of ourselves. External forces today are constantly attempting to squeeze us physically in our homes - where once spacious living accommodation is now being condensed and squeezed into smaller spaces - and also in our places of work - where workloads and responsibilities are being increased and squeezed into the working day - without the mental, emotional, or financial capacity required to handle this type of pressure.

Everything created by the universe needs space to both stretch and breathe. Humans, animals, and nature all have the divinely blessed right to the space they need to both inhale and exhale comfortably, without being squeezed or restricted by either anyone or anything. As much as we may wish to hold on tightly to our children, our family, our partner, our friends, and our pets through our love for them, we cannot do so as we know this is harmful to both them and ourselves.

We must always remember that what we give is ultimately what we will receive, therefore we must put into practice the phrase “If you love something let it go”. Because it is only through the action of surrendering our grip on everything we care for, that we can make space for much more of whatever we truly deserve to be obtained genuinely without any forced limitations or restrictions.

It is through our natural ability to stretch and expand where our evolution takes place, as this is exactly what our heart, our mind, and our spirit is designed to do. Nothing in life should be prevented from growth, therefore whatever we choose to squeeze will naturally repel us. And if we do not take heed to this warning, the first sign of daylight and freedom made available to anything we have attempted to squeeze into submission, will eventually leave with no return.

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